Mindfulness has been widely discussed, and if you've ever studied the mind or meditation, you're undoubtedly familiar with it. In the Western world, it's become the go-to buzzword in meditation because itâs simple, accessible, free of overt religious associations, and provides a pleasant way to balance your mindâoften making you feel a bit more profound than you are. In some circles Iâm not part of, itâs either the latest trend or has already become passĂ©, and merely mentioning it might even seem laughable. Still, I couldnât care less about that.
Luckily, Iâve never been one to follow trends or care about fashion; being part of a specific âsceneâ was never my style. As a result, when I come across these trends, theyâre usually already well past their prime and no longer in vogue with anyone. That said, mindfulness appears to have a staying power for now.
Iâm not here to rehash everything you might already know about mindfulness or preach to skeptics. To me, mindfulness has been a delightful revelation. For years, I have studied and practiced various forms of meditationâeven before I truly understood what I was doing, Iâd simply sit and gaze into space, letting my mind clear. This natural curiosity led me to explore many techniques, a couple of which I might detail in the next chapterâif and when I write it.
Mindfulness has provided me with balance, clarity, and calm even in chaotic situations. As someone who lives with insomnia, I hope that if you take away even one thing from this book, itâs these principles. They not only improve sleep but also help you manage insomnia when it strikes.
Now, letâs consider the internal narrative. Why is mindfulnessâor the lack thereofâso significant?
From the moment we are born, we are immersed in sounds that eventually become words. These words form the basis of our understanding of the world; they are the labels we begin to assign to the people and objects around us. Our parents introduce these labels early on, choosing names by which we are known for life. For instance, I am known as Samâeven though I sometimes go by other names, thatâs a discussion for another time.
We learn the labels for others tooâmom, dad, big brother (who might jokingly threaten to flush my head down the toilet), and so on. We pick these up through repetition and accompanying gestures, and they help us begin to understand and shape our view of the world.
As we grow, we transition from a purely subconscious state to one where we actively interact with and interpret the world using names, words, and other constructs that allow us to form a personal perspective.
These early yearsâfrom childhood through early adulthoodâare crucial in developing how we interpret the world and understand our place in it. During this time, we cultivate an internal dialogue that helps us decipher our surroundings. This inner conversation operates on multiple levels.
In essence, each of us has at least one inner voice that speaks to us throughout the day, helping us make sense of what we see, hear, smell, taste, and feel. Some might insist they donât have an internal voice, perhaps worrying that admitting such might be a sign of madness. Rest assured, that isnât the caseâif you ever claim you donât have one, that very statement is likely being processed by your internal voice.
This inner voiceâor voices, as most of us have more than oneâis believed to generate over 50,000 words a day. Much of this self-talk happens automatically, outside of our conscious awareness. I believe this constant dialogue is essential, allowing our subconscious to sift through the countless bits of information we encounter each second. Itâs this process that powers our intuition, our so-called sixth sense, and our ability to read situations or people on a gut level. Our brain absorbs millions of bits of data, compares them with a lifetimeâs worth of memories, weighs possible outcomes, and then delivers what seems to be the most likely conclusionâall without us even realizing it.
This internal dialogue can be a powerful toolâit fosters creative thinking, aids in problem-solving, and, as weâll explore later, can even empower you to redefine your life and take control of your future.
If you, as an insomniac, believe you arenât experiencing this internal narrative, think again next time youâre lying awake at night. In the still darkness, as you struggle to sleep because your mind just wonât switch off, youâll notice that repeating voice replaying the dayâs events, past grievances, or worries about what tomorrow might bring. That persistent monologue is your internal dialogue.
The problem arises when this chatter turns into negative self-talk. Weâll examine that issue further in the next article.
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